Quarter life crisis? Perhaps. Here’s my 30 before 30 

These past couple of weeks I turned 28, I quit my job, and made a huge decision to leave the city where I have started to cultivate a life.

I am not known for making particularly spontaneous decisions. I’m probably one of the most un-spontaneous people ever. I worry so, so much about everything.

But, in the last few years, there has been a lot of ups and (mainly) downs in my life, that I decided I need a change. Since I finished university, I have made all the decisions I felt I needed so that I would get to a certain end point, but very few of those decisions have actually made me truly happy.

A lot of that is down to circumstances, but it is also about how I choose to live my life. I have, in the past, cut myself off from people so that I can focus on other people; other people who, ultimately, were exacerbating the negativity in my life. I have stuck it out in horrible jobs because “you just have to do one year doing this, which you might hate, so you can move on to something better”. Which, with hindsight, I know is ridiculous.

Moving to London was the best thing that has happened to me in the last however many years. Here, I learnt to spend time by myself, made new friends, made progress with my anxiety and depression, started a job where I was able to learn really valuable skills and expand my knowledge, won an award for my work – which was up against journalists at national papers and much larger publications, started running (!) and enjoying it, and worked to develop a healthier lifestyle.

But, I need a change.

And I currently have no commitments.

My job has one month’s notice. As does my flat. I have no significant other. I have no pets, no children, no mortgage. The only thing of any significance I own is a car. And I am selling that, after two years of being in denial about needing a car in London.

So, in a few weeks I will be moving to France. I will be going to live with my mum and step-dad for a couple of months and from there I don’t know what I am going to do; for the first time in a long time, there is no plan.

The only thing I have is the list below.

Thirty, to some extent, seems an arbitrary number to measure things by, but for whatever reason it still holds significance in society. Plus, it’s a nice round number, and I like numbers like that.

A few of my friends have already done these lists, and a few of their ideas have inspired some of mine. I appreciate some of the ideas below are not exactly original, but it’s what I feel I need to do.

I have just under two years to complete all of these.

In no particular order (and perhaps subject to slight amendments):

  1. Hold a BIG spider
  2. See the Northern Lights
  3. Get a tattoo
  4. Speak fluent French (again)
  5. Learn conversational Spanish
  6. Eat in a restaurant by myself
  7. Go to the cinema by myself
  8. Eat in 5 Michelin Star restaurants
  9. Go to 50 new places – cities, national parks, etc
  10. Visit 20 new countries
  11. Read another 30 books
  12. Travel solo (the longest I have spent by myself abroad is 2 days)
  13. Start writing that book I’ve always planned
  14. Skinny dip
  15. Run 10k
  16. Catch a fish
  17. Learn to crochet
  18. Climb a mountain (taller than 2,000m) or Three Peaks
  19. Be an extra in a TV show or film
  20. Grow a plant and not kill it
  21. Go to the Grand Canyon
  22. Visit Hobbiton and pretend to be a Hobbit
  23. Go to a tennis grand slam tournament
  24. Volunteer
  25. Do a hot-air balloon ride
  26. Visit Auschwitz
  27. Spend at least a week without my phone (or any technology)
  28. Spend a week saying yes to everything
  29. Learn to play poker
  30. Learn not to worry so much

5 thoughts on “Quarter life crisis? Perhaps. Here’s my 30 before 30 

  1. When faced with two decisions, always choose the hardest. It’s the only way to grow and truly live life.

    You’ve inspired me to write my 50 before 50 bucket list!!!

    Good luck Sophie. Enjoy the freedom.


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